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Tish-bits

This is an extreme close up of a flower. Read to the end to find out what kind of flower it is.

I have been working on myself in more areas than one, all at once.  I am learning, growing and changing as a result of the work I am doing.  The work I am doing online involves some challenges.  I am thinking (more than usual) and I am inspired!  I am working to change my life by turning my dreams into a reality.

I first took part in the #brandstorychallenge  last week.  It is over now, and people actually participate in it more than once.  It is that good, and the information is different each time you take it! The basics may be similar each time, as it has a solid foundation, but you are guaranteed to learn something new each time you take this free challenge. My Day 6 Bonus Challenge homework was a design I made in Canva.  That program was introduced to me earlier in my blogging journey.  Along with Pixabay, where I get some of the most wonderful pictures that are free to use for my blog like the flower pictures shared in this story, are two of the many tips I have learned from asking a million and one questions.  Which I do.  All the time.

I am proud of completing the first challenge, and this was the “Culture Credo” bonus that I designed:
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I am really excited about how that turned out.  I LOVE it when my brain works and comes up with the most creative and wonderful ideas.  That is why I am here, still blogging.  It is something I have a lot of fun with, and something that I really enjoy!

 

This week started a new challenge.  It is all about the audience.  It is the #growyourtribechallenge.  The same person that taught the first one is teaching this one, too.  I have just completed the Day 2 homework.  I like the things I am learning.  It is making me think, and because I am writing my answers in a journal, and sharing it all every day, privately in the #PaidToBeYouPosse group (where you can find the challenges if you are interested) on Facebook and sharing the summaries publicly to win prizes.

After completing the #BrandStoryChallenge, I was in the draw for a prize, but I did not win.  I feel like I won something that will help me move forward, though.  I asked a list of questions, and they were almost all answered in the closing video for the challenge last week.  I used my talent of rapid fire think and ask questions to my advantage.  Jennifer Kem graciously took almost an hour of the 90-minute video to address almost all of my questions.  I am certain that other people were maybe too shy to ask, and I certainly didn’t think she would pick more than one or two at most.  As she runs a four-month long course that is not free like the challenges I am participating in, I didn’t get EVERY SINGLE QUESTION answered, but that is SMART.  It makes me want to start saving up for the next time the course will be offered, to get more training to become a successful entrepreneur.  I have already started business ideas before this, so I do consider myself an entrepreneur.  Becoming a success story, well that is what I am developing as I progress on this journey.  So again, Jennifer, thanks for the answers, I feel like I had a coaching session, and the advice was priceless!  If you are interested in her course, check out her website http://www.jenniferkem.com/.  She teaches about #masterbrand and #paidtobeyou.

Now, to address the two remaining elements in this Tish-ism.  What brought this one to life?  I was journaling away at my homework from Day 2.  I was on the final question, and it was in my mind.  The people in my tribe that read this blog are open to the “Tish-bits” of information that I share here.  I was inspired in the middle of answering that question, and I just put up a bracket and wrote it and used some other terms in the answer too.  I Tishsplained “Tish-isms”, “Tishsplaining”, and my new term “Tish-bits” right in the body of my answer.  If you have been following my blog, then you will know that my brain never stops, and it felt right to me to just stick it all in my answer.  I made it all relatable like I do.

The last mysterious element in the latest Tish-ism is what kind of flower that picture at the top of the story was.  I will solve the mystery here if you didn’t guess it already.

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It was a close-up of a Sunflower, my second favourite flower, after the Wild Cape Breton Rose.

 

 

 

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Weekend Warrior #27

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Weekend Warrior

Happy Weekend to you!  I am here on Sunday morning, using my AGENDA to figure out this busy day.  Friday I started a new challenge.  It is another five-day,  free,  online challenge, and since I had such a successful run at the last one I did, I signed up for the next one.  The first one taught me about how to Brand myself, as an Artist and an Author. The current Challenge is about Tribe Building, and that is a logical thing for me to learn tips and tricks for, also.  Both of these subjects need to be worked on, constantly, because the audience of today may be a different audience a month from now, six months from now, and onward.  Not that the core audience should be changing itself, but the needs of the audience will change and refocus over time, and I need to stay relevant if I am going to level up as an artist and author.

The homework for today, Day 3 is making me hesitant to answer. It looks easy, because of launching the contest, I think I am already figuring out the next step for me.  I am actually going to delay answering today until after the video for the challenge is posted.  I want to be sure that my answers are well thought out because I am Always Thinking…and I need to get the most out of this challenge that I can, which means sometimes I have to think about the answer, not just slam it out onto the keyboard.

I am really inspired from taking these challenges.  I ran a contest for people to check out different online projects I have on the go, and I picked a winner.  Today I need to create the prize, after having a consultation with the winner, yesterday.  I will be delivering the prize tomorrow, as she is someone that I work with.

Yesterday should have been an easy win for the cleaning and prep cooking.  It wasn’t.  I actually spent the whole day writing on the blog and working on my social media presence, as well as completing day 2 of the GYT Challenge.  I made the video, and I wrote two stories for the blog, one has been published, and the other one has been written in draft format.  It is waiting for approval on some links before I publish, as I want to be sure that I have gotten permission from the sources before sharing the links.  (I did get permission already for the one shared here.)

You may think that it is not hard to spend the day in front of the computer.  In one sense, you would be correct with that assumption.  On the other hand, I am working on many things at the same time, most of the time with writing as the main event, either here, on the blog, or writing my book, elsewhere.  I enjoy the social networking, and I have friends that I interact with online.  I also try to share only the best, most clever tweets.  I have not branched out far in the Twitterverse, but I do check in daily.  It is something I am getting the hang of how to use.

If I am writing, and that is working, then yes, there is a fun factor there for me too.  I really enjoy writing, and I do want to work hard at launching my trilogy to be a success.  I am trying to learn as I go, and do as much of this as I can by myself.  I know my limits, though, and will be in need of an editor when I have the manuscript and my initial editing completed.  I will need help in different areas, but I just took a Facebook quiz, and it said that I will be a millionaire in 2019.  If that is correct, I am going to be a successful published author by then.  I don’t really believe that it will happen because Facebook said so, but it is something that could happen if I work hard to make it so.

Today I went to a movie with my husband.  We went to see The Nut Job 2, and it was cute and funny.  Full of puns!  Not a lot, alright, but there were a few.  Then I rushed home to put a roast in the oven for supper.  Then I ran out again to help a friend buy what she needed for her store to create a new display.  We were both a little off, maybe tired from being busy, so we decided to go get some iced coffee.  We both had the sugar free vanilla.  I really enjoyed it, and it was just what I needed to pick me up.  We also sat down for a bit to have a chat.  Sometimes it is good to make time to just catch up.  The down side of this is that I had to turn down a visit with another friend today because I had already committed to the first friend yesterday.  The timing just wasn’t working out to do everything, and I still have homework and earrings to make.

When I publish this I am going to finish making supper, watch the video for my challenge, do the homework, make the earrings, and empty the dishwasher so I can fill it up again.  If I get REAL ambitious I’ll throw a chicken in the crockpot for tomorrow’s prep cooking adventures.  I LOVE Roast beef sandwiches, so lunch tomorrow will be a treat!  Tuesday I will need something prepared, and I am going to make Chicken Bacon Ranch Casserole.  Hence the need to cook the chicken, tonight or tomorrow.  It is a simple recipe so it can be done in the morning.  Then all I will need to do is steam the broccoli, grate some cheese, and mix the recipe together and pop it into the oven.  If I get that far.  Right now, I could seriously go for a nap.  What does that mean?  I win this weekend! I even conquered a hard avocado last night when I was making nachos for supper. It never stood a chance. What did you do this weekend?

 

 

Putting on my GAME FACE!

Before Starting. The "Blank Canvas"

Tish before Makeup or hair styling was done.

A few months ago, I shared a story about makeup.  Makeup: A Purge and Purchase Story was fun to experience, and fun to write about.  I was surprised by the comment thread my makeup questions spurred on my Facebook page.  Quite a few people had opinions, and some joined me on my shopping trip.

This morning I woke up and decided I would do my hair and makeup for my Facebook Live video.  I was announcing the winner of the Scavenger Hunt Contest I had going on all week.  I didn’t just want a “like and share” contest.  I wanted people to follow links to my different areas of expertise, one page for my jewellery making business, Tish’s Treasures, another my Facebook Author page, Tish MacWebber’s Author Facebook Page, and here, on my blog.

People showed interest, but not everyone participated.  Some tried to do all of the steps, and others liked the pages.  I made my first Facebook live videos this week.  I found that the one I made from my personal Facebook page was the one that had the most interaction, so I am learning as I am trying new things.  I have watched them after recording, just to hear what I sounded like, and to learn.  I will keep working on them, as they are another way to reach out to people that might not want to spend their time hunting for different pages.

That being said, at some point in the future, I am going to make the leap from this Blog page to my own website.  That will be a new step for me, outside of my comfort zone.  I want to combine the Bling, Blog, and Books I am creating on to a website.  I will be looking for help to do this, and I know that people in the communities I am involved with in my social media circles will point me in the right direction so I can figure it all out.  I am doing all of the work myself, since this page launched for the second time.  I had help at the start and took over when I was ready to take the reins.  It has been a bumpy ride at times, but so much fun.

Now for the makeup.  I am going to share a series of selfies I took this morning while getting ready for my video shoot.  That sounds bigger than it was.  It was less than five minutes long.  I am still not used to how things are flipped on the laptop.  It is another thing to work at until I am great at it.

 

 

Close up!  Lips have been found!

Close up! Lips have been found! I hardly recognize myself!

Ready to shoot my video!

Ready to shoot my video!

This happens to be the second tube of mascara I have tried.  I miss my wonder-curl mascara, they don’t make it anymore.  I will give them each another try before blogging my thoughts.  I also tried a new eye makeup remover.  I have not found one that completely cleans mascara from my lashes, ever.  Any tips will be appreciated with this in mind.  I asked about this today on my personal Facebook page, and it became quite a thread.  I am always happy to see another person’s point of view.  😉

Trust Your Gut: Tish’s Story; Part 27

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Trust Your Gut is a series of stories about real people with weight issues, and complications arising from those issues.  It will explain what the person is facing, what their options are, what they have decided to do to take action, and why they chose the path they are on.  Each person’s story will be based on truth, so it won’t all be happy, but it will be real.  The goal of this series is to get people talking about options that are available for people who have weight issues, on either end of the scale.  If you would like to contribute to this series, there is a contact form linked on my Home page for this blog.  I know there are people out there that want to help people like them; as I do.

 

The names here may or may not reflect the person’s real name.  If someone wants to remain unknown, we will choose a different name for that person’s story.  The goal is to help people, and anonymity is a valid personal choice for contributors.  I will use a person’s name only if they give permission to do so.

This week I am pleased to share another of my own stories.

Here is  Trust Your Gut: Tish’s Story; Part 27

Summer is slowly sneaking past us, and soon it will be fall.  I have seen other people do challenges, and I have a few things I need to get back on track with.  One of them is my zig zagging on the path less traveled to living a healthier lifestyle.  I don’t have kids, and I am not going back to school.  But September can be a new start for this and other areas of my life that are lacking commitment right now.

In THM, there are many different groups to belong to.  You can join based on food types, health issues, location, budget friendly, beginner, very fluffy, the main THM group and allergy issue groups.  There is even one for people that Blog about THM. I am involved in several and have not been contributing much lately.  I can share my Blog stories on their pages, but not if that is the only thing I am contributing.  I think that is fair.

I do write this to keep myself accountable, and also to help other people.  If you don’t have the same issues I have with being morbidly obese, then reading this Blog might help you learn how to be a better friend to someone like me.  It may even help you figure out what you can do to help them.

Let’s go with a big one. Do not be the food police.  Every person that is capable of feeding themselves is also capable of deciding what to eat, what not to eat, and how much of that they are going to eat.  If I am having a piece of cake at a social gathering, and someone makes me feel bad about it, I am going to eat two or three times the amount of cake I allowed for with my meal plan and insulin doses.  Saying nothing and judging by silence or a look is no better.  I eat the guilt instead of feeling it.  That is a dangerous option for me.  I am trying so hard to make better choices, but a simple thing like me having chocolate to get through a rough work day can compound to a box of chocolates at home later on.  Yes, a box, not one or two pieces.  If I bring them home, I want to gobble them up so they aren’t there to tempt me anymore.  When I think about that, it is really messed up.  But it is how I think.

I hid being a type 2 diabetic for a long time.  Now that I am open about it, I feel like people are always watching what I eat, and judging me.  If I was realistic, I would think that I am not so important in other people’s lives that they spend time critically thinking about what I am eating.  I have answered a lot of questions regarding what I am eating for lunch at work, and when it is a healthy recipe, I am proud to share.  Even if the cauliflower that I had to heat up is stinky, or someone is grossed out by the way I am assembling my cheeseburger pie.  If it tastes good, fills me, and doesn’t make me feel bad after eating it, then I am happy to share about what I am eating, and even share the recipes I love if people want to try them.

Back to September coming up.  I am going to focus more on me, and the THM plan.  What do I mean?  It is going to be hard.  I am going to have a 30 day no cheat challenge.  Eek!  I have commitment issues when it comes to being 100% on plan, but it is about time that I really put an effort into it.  At the same time, I am going to post in the groups more in September, so that I can share the blog posts that relate to THM in the groups more.  Finally, to get myself on track and stay there, I will have to prep cook.  That also needs time and energy.  If it is focused, it does not have to take a lot of either, because I am prep cooking for me, and sometimes for my husband, not an army.  Leftovers are handy for lunches, as long as I have the means of storing them properly.

One thing that concerns me is maintaining a solid balance of my blood sugars.  I am worried about lows and treating them while staying on plan.  That is a tricky path in the brambles and may require bending of the rules a bit.  If I have to pick a quick source of the wrong kind of sugar to avoid a hospital or death, I am going to have to be OK with that.  Before I start, though, I am going to hang out in the THM Diabetes group and ask some questions to make me feel better about how to treat the lows.  I am giving myself time to do this, before the official start.  I will need to start recording my blood sugars, insulin doses and keep a food diary to make this work because if I don’t know what the patterns are, it is hard to manage the blood sugar highs and lows properly.  This sounds like work to me, but if you do something consistently for 30 days it becomes a habit, and I am trying to develop better habits for a healthier lifestyle.  I wrote it here, so now I have to follow through.

Accountability.  It is time to take things seriously again.  Writing it all down every day will help me track patterns and find out how different foods affect my sugars.  I know I am not going to be 100% on plan, being me, but if I can give it my best attempt, I will have something I can be proud of working on.  So I am going to make a real effort in September. I need to refocus on a few things, and this is one of them.  Time to start planning.  Anybody else getting ready to start fresh in September?  I will cheer you on as I share my progress every week, here.  It’s time to refocus.

Weekend Warrior #26

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Weekend Warrior

I don’t have any “plans” this weekend.  I am going to do that Bouncing of the House I didn’t do last weekend.  I will catch up with a friend and maybe call another friend.  This weekend I am going to be alone while the hubby is at work.  Sometimes that is just what I need.

I will crank the tunes and get some things done tomorrow.  I am happy to say he did some work around here this week, so it isn’t a total disaster waiting for me to have to do everything.  It helps to have a partner with the chores, even if we work better in tandem than together on some projects.

I have to say it, and I don’t want to.  I have had another generation of ants in the kitchen.  I also want to put it out there that mint plants are needy divas.  They are happy or parched or dying or perky.  There is no happy medium, only the hour after they are watered, it seems.  I am struggling to keep them alive, and losing the battle with one already.  I need them to live to chase the bugs away.  I have seen spiders and ants, so maybe it is not a reliable theory.  It was worth a shot, though.

The problem with having a completely free weekend happens when I don’t have a reason to get the chores done.  It is much more fun to procrastinate on the computer and binge watch TV all day.  I know I am crawling out of bed in the morning to get the car.  I have not decided if that will happen Sunday, or not.  If I stay home, I don’t spend money.  That is a good rule of thumb for me.  I do have errands and so I need the car tomorrow.  I don’t like being home without it if I don’t need to be.  What if I need something?  I need the car to go get it.

Then a whole other list of things happens, I blink, and the day is gone and I have nothing to show for it.  So I think this weekend I will make a list.  Sometimes that is the only way for me to stay on track.

I have one day of the Brand Story Challenge I have participated in all week left.  It is over on Saturday, and I am looking forward to trying to put it all together.  There are prizes, and I feel like I am putting myself out there, much like I do here, and just going for it.  It may not seem like I am working hard at this if you don’t know me, but there are parts that are shared publicly and parts that are just for you and the members of the challenge.  So I have been sharing it all in the closed group.  I feel like if I put it all out there, maybe I have a chance to win something.  I can work hard, and hope.  I am trying to get below my outer layer and see what I am hiding inside that can help propel me forward.  It is making me think about things differently, and that is OK.

With Sunday morning there came a lack of sleep, due to humidity and some inspirations!  I have just filmed my first ever Facebook live video and created a scavenger hunt for the first contest I have ever launched for Tish’s Treasures.  I am really hoping it steps up my entrepreneurial game, and I am already planning my next contest!

I did get the car Sunday too.  I spent too much time trying to get in a nap, so this is causing my posting here to be late.  I have had so much to do, but my body needed to rest up before the dreaded Monday appeared.  (Oh no! It’s here!)

There was a bonus round for the Brand Story Challenge.  It is not quite ready, but will be shared all over the place really soon!

I am going to leave a link for my first Facebook Live Contest video HERE!  It is open to anyone that completes the requirements.  If you enter, best of luck to you!  There is a prize!

I am feeling drained after this weekend.  Humidity is not nice when you are unable to sleep through it.  I got a lot done, though, so I am calling it a draw…today was not as productive as it could have been.  How was your weekend?

 

Trust Your Gut: Tish’s Story; Part 26

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Trust Your Gut is a series of stories about real people with weight issues, and complications arising from those issues.  It will explain what the person is facing, what their options are, what they have decided to do to take action, and why they chose the path they are on.  Each person’s story will be based on truth, so it won’t all be happy, but it will be real.  The goal of this series is to get people talking about options that are available for people who have weight issues, on either end of the scale.  If you would like to contribute to this series, there is a contact form linked on my Home page for this blog.  I know there are people out there that want to help people like them; as I do.

 

The names here may or may not reflect the person’s real name.  If someone wants to remain unknown, we will choose a different name for that person’s story.  The goal is to help people, and anonymity is a valid personal choice for contributors.  I will use a person’s name only if they give permission to do so.

This week I am pleased to share another of my own stories.

Here is  Trust Your Gut: Tish’s Story; Part 26

Struggling with a weight issue is hard.  It is hard to stay motivated all of the time.  It is hard to commit to making the changes needed to see results.  The results don’t happen overnight, and there is no quick and easy fix.

Words matter.  Whether they are good to hear and provide encouragement or not, a person that is struggling with weight issues has deep rooted insecurities that can make a little comment pack a punch that hurts so bad that you want to give up.

I am writing this week to tell you to keep going.  I am writing to tell myself the same thing.  Sometimes the little monster inside is making the biggest racket and causing you to doubt yourself.  Other times the damage is done from someone that you would least expect it from, and when you are blindsided by hurtful words, it can cause a setback in your progress.

It is easier to give up.  It is easy to blame someone else.  Neither option is the right one, though.  I am working on choosing my battles carefully right now.  There will always be petty, jealous, mean people out there.  I need to choose to be the bigger person.  Yeah, I just wrote that, but it is how I am supposed to say it.  I don’t mean physically, of course.  If it was that easy, I would just eat so much that I would sit on the people that hurt me.  Oh, that would be nasty.  Fun to think about, but not very realistic.

I guess I could rephrase that into being the more mature person.  Fat or old. I don’t think there is a real winner here.

Being practical about what I choose to believe is something I am working on.  I am an emotional, hormonal, creative, over the top, learning to believe in my own skills woman.  That is a lot to deal with, and it can all happen in five minutes or less. If my hair is frazzled, it is expressing what is going on inside.  If I am quiet, I may be mulling something over in my mind, or too angry to speak without a filter.  That brain to mouth filter gets a little less effective as I am getting older.  Sometimes it is a good thing. Other times it is not.

As a creative person, I embrace my emotions.  ALL OF THEM. Which means that sometimes when someone is mean, I OVERREACT.  I over think, over analyze, and get overly upset.  If it is something that is mean, I may focus on it for a really long time.  This is not healthy and it is not helpful.

There will always be people who think they know more than I do and think that they are experts because of their own education, opinion, or life experiences.  I am confident that I am unique and a one of a kind.  If I am not an expert on me in my own life, well there is just no way that I can accept someone else’s opinion about what I am doing to better myself.  I am living my life, not just existing in it.  I am making changes, and not just letting things happen.  I am not perfect so I will make mistakes along the way.  But they are mine to make, and I am going to own them.  All I can do is admit when I am wrong, and learn from the mistakes.  That is all anyone can really do about it.

Tackle something with me this week.  Let the inner glow out of the cage.  Shine as bright as you can from the outside in. Believe in yourself, and prove to yourself that you are worth it because you can take one thing that is hindering you and just let it go.  Release it.

I once did a group relaxation exercise in university.  We were to go to our happy place inside our mind. Check. Then we were to imagine taking all of the negative and stress causing issues we have and put them inside something so we could leave them locked up and not worry about them anymore.  I am sure it was supposed to be an imaginary box or trunk or something that we could close, lock, and throw away the key for.

I shoved it all in a blender and turned it on.  Man, that felt good.  It made me giggle, and that was the point. To make it all go away.

Find your blender, and pulverize the negativity out of your life.  Theoretically, of course. Then dump it out and clean it so it is ready for your next concoction.  If it is nasty enough, flush that negative smoothie down the imaginary toilet.

It works for me.  How do you make the things that are weighing you down leave your mind to be clear?

Trust Your Gut.  It knows you want to shine.  Have a bright and glowing week!

 

Weekend Warrior #25

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Weekend Warrior

Here comes another weekend.  I am relaxing with a bottle of wine on this fine Friday night.  It is well deserved and has been in the wine rack for a while.  I kept it so that when I wanted to indulge, I would enjoy it.  I have, indeed.

What else did I do?  I started an Orphan Black Marathon of season 5.  It is the last season, and it ends tomorrow night.  Oh, how bittersweet it will be.

Saturday will be a full on, all out Bouncing the House day.  I need to get some cleaning done, and except for the washing of my delicates tonight while I enjoy the wine, I am falling behind in the housekeeping department, and I need to give it some TLC. My husband will be drafted with a “Honey do list”, and we will get some work done here tomorrow.  Update: I am visiting a friend on Saturday, and I caught up with another friend while running an errand.

Sunday involves a volunteer event.  I am working with the Boston Terrier Rescue Canada group again.  I am an official volunteer, and we will have a booth at the Fredericton Pride Parade.  I have signed on for the walking time in the parade because if I am going to be there, I want to get some exercise.  Walking is good for me. BTRC needs fund raising by people like me to help the non-profit group rescue more dogs in need, foster them, and hopefully place them in homes where they will be adopted.

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

Volunteers ready to walk in the parade

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

These t-shirts are hilarious like the bandanas

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

Flags and phone covers and bling!

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

Magnets and information about the BTRC Recycling program

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

Bandanas for the dogs

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

One of the BTRC bandanas.

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

The chocolate cupcakes were delicious. They also had popsicles and pup-sicles!

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

Just like MasterChef! Hands in the air! All done setting up!

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

Action shot! There were a lot of people out, it was the best turnout ever for Fredericton Pride Parade day!

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

The Booth is ready for business!

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

Katie and Sally, all dolled up and riding through the parade in style!

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

I made it after walking in the parade.

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

I met some new volunteers today

BTRC at Fredericton Pride 2017

Face painting success!

As a Catholic who believes in science and that the unexplained mysteries of how science and religion mingle will not be fully explained to me until I reach Heaven (which I sincerely hope to do, but realistically I expect to land in purgatory because nobody is perfect) I try to live my life guided by the church and the bible.  That being said, I have spent many years in conflict with myself.

I have come to terms with how I am able to be friends with different people.  That is the secret.  They aren’t fat or skinny, male or female, black or white, young or old, gay or straight.  They are people.  And as people, we all have our own belief systems.  Mine happens to be based in the Catholic Religion.  It teaches us to love one another, and also not to judge.  With these simple rules, I leave the rest to God.  I am able to be friends with some wonderful, incredible people, and because I do not judge them,  I think I am a better person for leaving the judgements aside and letting more friends into my life.  Like I said, nobody is perfect, and when it is not up to me, I am free to be true to myself.  I am able to open my eyes and see people as they are, people.  Like me.

I don’t usually write about my faith and religion.  I am not attempting to erase the past wrongs done by the Church, or by other Catholics.  I am only responsible for myself and my own actions.  I do try to be a good person, and live my life by example, with the 10 Commandments as my guide.  When I think about the state of the world today, I feel concerned.  I am not confident that humankind will survive the future of what might be.  I decided to write about it because change is possible.  It starts with one person.  I am putting this out there and making it known that I do not tolerate evil, no matter what form it takes.  Hatred is evil, and there is no room in my life for it.  If I had my way, there would be no room in the Universe for it.

The weather is iffy for tomorrow.  There is a chance it will rain, and maybe there will be thundershowers.  Not the best forecast for a parade.  It will happen, rain or shine.  I will try to dress for any weather (that will be challenging) and my sneakers are the best I’ve got for walking.  I am thinking about wearing something fun, in support of my friends.  I don’t have a costume, like some people, but then I am an ally.  It’s not about me.  It’s about allowing people to be true to themselves and to celebrate their acceptance of themselves and each other. Together.  The way people are supposed to be.  United in a common cause and belief, in a peaceful celebration.  I hope it does not rain on the parade.

Rainbow umbrella

It poured!  There was a thunderstorm indeed, complete with rolling thunder and lightning.  This happened after the parade, though.  People packed up as quickly as they could and ran for cover.  Imagine it, if you will.  I went to the Fredericton Pride Parade, and I left all wet!  A little (or a lot of) rain never hurt anyone.

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Laughing in the rain!

Fredericton Pride Parade 2017

YES!

Fredericton Pride Parade 2017

Before heading home, we stopped at the Tiki Iced Tea Bar. Yes, it was shaken, not stirred, and wonderful!

The city has implemented a rainbow crosswalk downtown.  I think it is nice, and living in such a diverse city, and country, it fits in very well.

 

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Feeling the love after the rain at Fredericton Pride Parade, 2017

That’s a wrap for another weekend!  I won today, but the house did not get bounced properly.  I will say the weekend won Saturday, even though I still had a great time meeting up with friends, I did not accomplish what I set out to do.  This weekend, it was a draw. What did you do this weekend?

 

Trust Your Gut: Tish’s Story; Part 25

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Trust Your Gut is a series of stories about real people with weight issues, and complications arising from those issues.  It will explain what the person is facing, what their options are, what they have decided to do to take action, and why they chose the path they are on.  Each person’s story will be based on truth, so it won’t all be happy, but it will be real.  The goal of this series is to get people talking about options that are available for people who have weight issues, on either end of the scale.  If you would like to contribute to this series, there is a contact form linked on my Home page for this blog.  I know there are people out there that want to help people like them; as I do.

 

The names here may or may not reflect the person’s real name.  If someone wants to remain unknown, we will choose a different name for that person’s story.  The goal is to help people, and anonymity is a valid personal choice for contributors.  I will use a person’s name only if they give permission to do so.

This week I am pleased to share another of my own stories.

Here is  Trust Your Gut: Tish’s Story; Part 25

I had a rough week last week.  It was one of those “hard on my head” kind of weeks.  I am struggling to dig out from under the stuff that was dragging me down.  It is hard to focus on living a healthier lifestyle when the world is crashing all around you, and pulling the rug out from under your feet.  This week was not much better, but I am turning things around.  I have made some decisions.

Sometimes there are too many things to deal with and I get overwhelmed. Or frustrated. Or angry.  I did some thinking this week,  and I made some decisions.  My anger may have got the best of me in the last two weeks, and I am still finding ways to deal with it.  Eating is not one of them.  I have struggled to make healthier choices when it comes to food.  I went to Zumba.  In Zumba, I realized my abs were not going to be happy with me the next day.  I decided that was OK, because I am really not too pleased with my abs, either.

Instead of spiralling out of control, I spent some time dealing with my feelings.  They are not all resolved, but I decided that I was not able to control some things.  I also realized that there are some things that I can control.  I did some cooking.  Tonight I made Bangin Ranch Drums.  THM is a source of healthy recipes and food.  I have been making some of the recipes over and over, and I need to get back to it.

Tonight was a good start.  A week from tonight, I will meet my new doctor.  I finally made an appointment.  It will be good to get it over, and I am hoping that it will be a good experience.  If not, I will ask for a different doctor in the clinic I go to.  I am really hoping that it works out.

I do not have a lot of information or inspiration this week.  So I will just encourage anyone that is reading this to keep going.  Keep fighting for yourself.  Keep working to let your inner beauty shine so bright that the monster doesn’t stand a chance.  Because it is a never ending struggle, and no matter what your issues are, we can only tackle the ones we have a chance at winning.  That doesn’t mean that you should throw in the towel and give up.  What it does mean, is that sometimes you have to choose your battles.  This week I took my time about it, but in the end, I picked me.  And that is the best choice I can make.

Trust Your Gut #TYGT

Weekend Warrior #24

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Weekend Warrior

If you have ever wondered why I picked the “Angry Tomato” pic for this series, there are a few reasons.  One is that it made me laugh, out loud.  I reacted to it, so I decided it would work.  Another is because I am fighting my way to living a healthier lifestyle, and I wanted a kitchen themed picture for this series.  I try to do the cooking and cleaning on the weekends, I find it had to work at during the work week.  I have had some success this year in my spring cleaning challenge, but as of yet, I have not finished.  I choose not to dwell on what I have not done and try to move forward because of what I have done.

I am planning my day out, dreading the return to work tomorrow.  I am a firm believer that there should be less week and more weekend.  I do not have the power or the budget to sustain a lifestyle that does not include a day job, so the reality is, I have to keep the day job, even if I would rather devote all of my time to being creative and writing.

Which brings me to my books.  I have started them, yes.  I have had an idea (finally) this morning about where to continue as I plan to write some more today.  I don’t know if I will succeed in writing enough to complete the weekend challenge I joined, but I am going to see what I could do.  That is how I entered.  This doesn’t count, as it is not progressing on my book.  I will add it to the word count as a side project, because it is writing, nonetheless. I do have deadlines with my blog, too, though and I have to do my best to keep up with it here for myself, and for my followers.  Thank you to those who are taking the time to read my Blog, and welcome to any people who are new here.  I write at least twice a week, and this is one of my regular categories. Me vs the weekend. 🙂

Yesterday I got up early, bought and delivered a birthday present to a friend.  Her birthday had been the day before, and I wanted to make sure I got to see her.  We had a good talk, but as she was working it wasn’t the same as a real visit.  I am going to try and pop over again today, as I think it would be nice.

I then tackled some indoor gardening projects.  I have read online that spiders and other bugs do not like mint plants.  A few weeks ago, I had bought six different mint plants, and my husband replanted them into new pots for me.  I have noticed that they were drying up.  I am still trying to figure out a watering schedule for them.  I watered them from the top yesterday when I was finished, and just before I started writing I watered them from the bottom.  I will have to do some online research.  While I was working yesterday I found a green “leaf eater” bug, which my husband buried in the dirt saying that it is a leaf eater, that should be the end of it.  I have my doubts.  I also found an inchworm in another one, and that was successfully relocated outside on a leaf from that plant.  Late last night I got him to move a ladybug back outside for me.  The ants and spiders are not found as frequently inside, so that is a bonus.  I am hoping it works and more bugs stay outside.

Something else was a little confusing.  There is a spearmint plant amongst the varieties I bought, and around the base of the pot on the shelf that I have it on are a lot of hard, black dots.  It is either droppings from a critter or the plant went to seed because it was so dry.  I am not sure, the black bits are no bigger than granulated sugar pieces.  They may indeed be little seeds.  I may gather them up and plant them, to see what comes up!

My husband worked a few extra hours yesterday.  He has been doing that on one of his days off to help with our budget.  I am not going to write about my work here, at least not this week, I had a frustrating week.  I am going to leave it at that, and it is also the reason I did not do any over time at my work this week.  Sometimes I do.  This week it just wasn’t going to happen.

After he was done, we picked up a few groceries.  He made us subs for lunch and he barbequed some wieners for supper.  We then headed out to spend time with some friends.  He had a guys gaming night, and I watched a movie with another friend and called it a ladies night.  Sometimes it is important to plan activities apart.  Other times, like today, we will spend more time together.  It is OK to not spend every single minute with your significant other when you have free time.  It is healthy to have different friends, hobbies and activities.  There is still a common ground for the things you enjoy doing together, but a little break here and there is something we all need.

For prep cooking today I am making Bangin’ Ranch Drums.  It is a Trim Healthy Mama recipe.  I love it, and my husband is OK with it in the rotation, but like with all of the THM recipes, he doesn’t want it all the time.  We also got buns for barbequed cheeseburgers and sloppy joes.  I have some THM sloppy joe mix already made in my freezer.  He likes Manwich.  On this, I am OK with him making his own supper.  If I am to be on plan when I eat it, I will have it with salad, not on a bun.  I may make some green bean fries this week too, as I do enjoy them as a side with the chicken.  I am still working on everything all at once but trying to be realistic at the same time.

Today I will be continuing the cat sitting job.  I also did some plant care there yesterday, they have one houseplant and it needed TLC.  I don’t know about the plant boxes on the deck, though.  They look like they have had a rough summer, and I am not sure if they can be rescued.  I may try, just to surprise my friends when they come home.  I will see how the day goes.  It is very dry, there is a no fire ban here province wide. If I do work on the outdoor plants, I will have to remember to water them.  If they don’t read this, it will be a nice surprise.  If they do, I make no promises.  It may be beyond saving.

I am a member of the Fredericton Science Fiction Society.  The FSFS gets together a little less frequently than it used to, but today we are going to meet up at a local ice cream shop.  My husband is a member too, and the group usually has potluck events year round.  With a ban on fires, we decided it would be better to go have ice cream instead of an outdoor BBQ at a local park today.  Air conditioning may or may not have been a deciding factor in this plan.

We have to do some cleaning.  While I was working on my indoor gardening yesterday, my husband was trimming the lawn.  He didn’t mow it yet.  It is still very dry so there may not be a rush for that.  He is amused that I think we should water it with the garden hose.  It is turning brown.  I just want it to be healthy, and not be so dry it is at risk for burning.  There was a thunderstorm last night, but we need more rain to remove the risk of fires, sooner rather than later.

All in all a busy weekend, but thankfully, it has been going at a slower pace this week.  It is a holiday tomorrow, and I look forward to the holiday pay that I *may have* already spent yesterday.  It is OK. I will forfeit it to the budget since I went ahead and bought some extras.  It’s all about compromise and doing what you can to make life enjoyable with what you have to work with.  Weekends are supposed to be fun and relaxing.  I think I snuck a little of each in this weekend, so it is a win for me!  What did you do this weekend?

 

 

 

Trust Your Gut: Tish’s Story; Part 24

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Trust Your Gut is a series of stories about real people with weight issues, and complications arising from those issues.  It will explain what the person is facing, what their options are, what they have decided to do to take action, and why they chose the path they are on.  Each person’s story will be based on truth, so it won’t all be happy, but it will be real.  The goal of this series is to get people talking about options that are available for people who have weight issues, on either end of the scale.  If you would like to contribute to this series, there is a contact form linked on my Home page for this blog.  I know there are people out there that want to help people like them; as I do.

 

The names here may or may not reflect the person’s real name.  If someone wants to remain unknown, we will choose a different name for that person’s story.  The goal is to help people, and anonymity is a valid personal choice for contributors.  I will use a person’s name only if they give permission to do so.

This week I am pleased to share another of my own stories.

Here is  Trust Your Gut: Tish’s Story; Part 24

Life is funny.  Today when I got up I expected good news here on my blog, as I had published an introduction and my second guest blog post on another blogger’s site.  I was not wrong.  The day turned dark on me this afternoon, and I came home and posted on social media that I was having a hard time.  Friends asked if they could help.  One person sent a friend request.  That person I had never chatted with before helped me turn my night around.  I am not saying that I am not still having the feelings I had earlier, but just having a cry wasn’t enough, either.  I had to do something different.

I have been using this blog to help myself and to try to help others.  Whether it is to share a laugh, or tips, or explore my inner thoughts and demons, I have a purpose here.  It has grown since its beginnings under a different name until I was challenged to rethink things and make it better.  I like to write, that is obvious, and I have rediscovered my passion for writing since I started this adventure last November.  I am working hard at it, to set and keep deadlines, and practice my writing skills.  I am proud of what I have done so far.

I am working on myself too.  On a day like today, there were too many emotions to keep under the cork.  The cork popped, and my tears flowed.  I was sitting here unashamedly crying my beautiful blue eyes out, trying to understand why I wasn’t good enough for something else I wanted to do.  I am working on a lot of me and there is a lot of me to work on.  I am trying to find my gumption every day, not every other week.  I am trying to maintain the cleaning I have done thus far in my home, and improve on it.  I am doing well with the Blog writing, but not so well on the book writing.  I am busy socially, both online and in real life.  I am going to Zumba when I can.  I do some prep cooking, but admittedly not enough.  As I am often told, sometimes I am too hard on myself.  The truth is, and I think I have shared this before, I don’t know how to be any other way.

I have issues with self-esteem.  I often feel like I am good, but not good enough.  This is part of what happened to me today.  When I am rejected, it is like I am taking a kick in the teeth.  I try not to let things show all the time, but there are days like today that I am frustrated, and my only way to get it out is through my tears.  I try really hard to not speak out impulsively in anger. I lost that one today, on both fronts.  I really feel like I am being treated unfairly, with a few different things that are happening in my life.  All of these things added up, and in time, they have to be let out.  Some people yell.  Some people become quiet.  Some people hide.  People like me, well we cry and eat.  Trying to fill the hole caused by whatever triggered the feelings.  I am trying to change that.

The new friend I made today said to write a gratitude list.  Write down five things that I have gratitude about in my life.  In a private message, she also invited me to write down 3 things that are causing me to have my issues I posted about.  I did.  I shared what was going on with a few close friends.  My new friend agreed with me that I had a reason to be upset.  I didn’t need the validation, but there it was.  Without telling this person every thing that was setting me off today, they still saw that there is a lot going on for one person to deal with.  Keeping those three things inside was a part of what made it so hard for me to cope today.

I need to make some changes.  I can’t fix every problem that I am facing right now, but I am trying to work on the ones I can.  Tomorrow is a new day.  I will try to face it with my best foot forward, but right now, I am feeling a little nervous about that.  People that know me know that I am not good at hiding how I feel.  It’s going to be a bad day tomorrow because what happened today was bad news for me, and it will be good news for some other people tomorrow.  That is going to be hard to swallow.  Considering I would rather avoid it all and just make poor choices for what to eat and drink avoid real life tomorrow.  I am going to end with my gratitude list.  It didn’t fix my problems, but at least it got me thinking about something else.  For a little while.

1. Discovering my passion for writing and realizing it is what I am meant to do.
2.My husband is my rock and my hero.
3. The joy I get from working on my blog and watching it grow.
4.My stubbornness.
5. Friends and family.
6. My blue eyes.
7. My sense of humour.

After I calmed down a bit, my final entry to the list for the day was:

8.  I still have my teeth. Nobody actually managed to kick any out yet.

My new friend was right. It’s all about perspective.

Trust Your Gut.